How long???

Good evening fellow cyberspacers!  Writing a little earlier today than normal, but I have to get something off of my chest.  Went to court today for child support.  I must say that I am officially disgusted with the whole process.  First off, B was able to get a public defender FOR A FAMILY MATTER, which I was told they didn't handle.  Then, his almighty p.d. didn't show up for court, and B got a continuance!  On a contempt hearing!  So, when all was said and done, I asked the child support attorney: "How many years behind in child support does he need to be before you guys decide to hold him accountable for his responsibilities?"  So she said what anyone trained in diffusing hostile situations would say: "I know exactly how you feel..."
Here's how the conversation went:
Me: "No, obviously you don't know how I feel, because if you had even a small idea, we wouldn't be standing here right now.  And I would like to know why he(B)even had the right to object to a warrant when he was in contempt in the first place."
CSA: "Well, two years ago, a man was thrown in jail for nonpayment, and he fought it.  The case went before the supreme court, and that was how the law was put in place giving the non-payer the right to object to a warrant. Also, B says he is starting a job on Monday, so we will see how that goes..."
Me: "Did I mention to you that I am a heart surgeon, and I took the afternoon off of work to be at this hearing, which I must admit is an absolute joke."
CSA: "Really?  You're file doesn't say that you are a heart surgeon..."
Me: "Well, just because I say something doesn't mean that it is true.  He told you that he hasn't been employed for two years, but that isn't what he told the mediator.  He admitted to her that he worked for a moving company a year ago, but didn't pay any support while he was employed there.  That's why you need to start making him provide proof for the things that he is telling you."
CSA: "I understand your frustration, but that is the law.  Unfortunately, he has the right to object.  But one thing that is good.  The burden of proof is on him.  He has already been found in contempt, so he has to either provide payment on that day, or give good reason as to why he cannot pay."
Me: "Are you going to make him prove whatever he tells you?  I mean, when he says he has been looking for employment, are you going to make him provide proof of application? Or, if he says that he is starting a job, are you going to make him provide proof of that, like names of employers, contact information, etc."

Well, the conversation went on like that for a few more minutes.  If I hear one more person tell me that they understand  my frustration, I swear they will get clocked!  That CSA lady must have told me that at least five times!  I know that she is trained to say that, but if I may give some advice: Don't say that you understand someone's frustration/pain/sorrow/etc. if you have never felt that type of frustration/pain/sorrow/etc.  It only pisses the other person off.

I would really like to know why in the state of Wisconsin the DEADBEAT DAD'S have so many rights?  What about the childrens' right to be financially supported by both parents?  I keep hearing the family court people harping about not being on either parents' side, but instead trying to do what is in the best interest for the children.  But more and more, I see the truth.  The family court could really care less what is in the best interest of the children.  I'm not really sure whose best interest they are looking out for, but I will be sure to keep you posted as I get more information.

As if the child support thing isn't bad enough, but I am also grounded from the gym for the rest of the week.  Doctor's orders.  Turns out that all the training for the 5ks that I wanted to do later this summer is making my colitis flare up.  Sucks...I kinda use the gym as a way to relieve stress, and to find out that for at least a week I am grounded just really sucks.

Well, I'm getting tired, so I'm going to pop off for the night.  Just a word to the wise...don't drink and type.  Cuz once it's out there, you can't take it back. 

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